Going to school is inevitable at some point in the life of every lucky child. Fortunately, many children around the world, including our country Pakistan, are deprived of educational facilities and it is a pity that practically sufficient steps are not taken to improve.
The problem is not only those children who do not go to school, but the real problem also comes to those children where the child is afraid to go to school. In the beginning, if the child comes home from school or is stubborn and cries, then it is understandable that school is naturally a new environment for the child and it will take some time for him to adjust there. But when the child is going to school regularly and at the same time presents various reasons for not going, then the reasons should be examined as to why the child is afraid to go to school or is not interested in studies.
It is important to get to the root of the problem rather than explaining it to children harshly or repeatedly. Our children’s parents, teachers and older siblings are not so frank with them that the child tells them all their problems at once, so all these adults have a collective responsibility to understand the child’s problems and solve them. Try to solve. There are some very obvious signs that will reveal to you that your child is suffering from a psychological or emotional problem.
The first sign is that the child suddenly shows disinterest in class. If earlier his grades were A plus, now he is passing with difficulty, and the child is finding it difficult to complete the homework and assignments given to him.
A child’s lack of interest in learning is also a sign that his teachers are complaining to parents about it on a daily basis, whether it’s by texting or calling you directly from a friend of the child or writing it in the teacher’s diary. Write all, behind all this is that the child is not memorizing the lesson properly, does not do homework, absent minded in the class and does not listen to the teacher at all.
Perceptible changes in the child are also a sign, he lacks confidence, shouts and breaks things, is stubborn and disobedient. Because the child is still young and his emotional development is gradual, so he cannot express the difficulties faced by him in words, so he makes his emotional conditions his support.
If your child used to make friends and mingle in class, but now suddenly has a change in him that he wants to get rid of old friends in addition to making new friends, he has become extremely shy. And does not participate in any kind of social events. This is an alarming situation. For example, all the siblings are going to a birthday party and the child is sitting at home with a frown. If the family members are going to a wedding, if the child refuses to go, gets angry and shy, then understand that the child is developing psychological problems. .
Children who run away from school lack discipline. They may not complete assignments on time, as such children do not come home to show their diaries, forget homework or procrastinate. Now the child does not do it consciously but he does it unconsciously. The child tries hard to explain his problem to the parents through his behavior but it does not happen because the parents give more importance to the language of words.
A child’s apparent physical changes, such as stomach aches, rapid breathing, upset stomach or headaches, come on suddenly and many times have no medical cause, but can be just excuses for not going to school.
Now the solution to all these problems is attention and love. Parents, teachers and siblings should listen carefully to the child. Give the child a chance to speak, even if it’s just a few broken words. Ask him to try to put into words what he feels.
If he doesn’t want to tell anything in front of everyone, don’t pressure him, instead take him to isolation and give him confidence but only parents should do this because no one but parents can keep a child safe in isolation. Complete the child’s sentences with your own little words, show him good and successful videos and don’t leave him alone.
Reassure children that they are getting better at school, be firm and gentle at times, but neither should be extreme.
Now it comes to children’s relationship with their teachers, every child gets attached to some teacher, obeys and listens to them. In this case, get to know the child’s favorite teacher, tell them about the child’s situation, and build a good relationship so that they don’t hesitate to share everything about your child with you. If the child is being bullied by a classmate in the class or the children in the larger classes are misbehaving with him, parents should first inquire with the child and then with the teachers and get to the root of the problem. Oftentimes, young children fear not complaining about their bad classmates and stay inward, leaving them bitter, upset, and angry. Despite all these things, if the child still remains in the same position, then a psychologist should be contacted regarding the child so that the child can be brought back to a normal life through negotiation.
